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It's Not Your Fault: Victim-blaming and Child Sexual Abuse

No one wants to be a scapegoat, especially for something that is completely out of his or her control. Victim-blaming is similar to a scapegoat because a person is made to bear the blame for someone else’s actions even though he or she may be the victim. Rather than leaving the blame on the perpetrator of a crime, some people either intentionally or unintentionally shift the blame to the victim. I initially became familiar with the term and concept of “victim-blaming” after attending a...

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I have been in a 12 year marriage with my son's father who started off being so nice and sweet. I got with him at 17 married 3 months...

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Hello ALEJANDRA, Thank you for sharing your experience here at YesIcan. It seems you have a lot of questions that can be answered by...

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Hello SammiJ, Thank you for sharing your experience here. It is okay for you to feel scared. Your experience must have been difficult.

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Hi LUPACEXI, Thank you for joining our site. I would suggest at the very least that you might speak to a child advocacy program in your...

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Why Doesn't She Just Leave?

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and in honor of this I wanted to do a blog post about one of the most pervasive, and detrimental, issues we have as a society when it comes to dealing with domestic violence (DV); victim blaming. The title of this post is "why doesn't she just leave?" (please note that I am just using the pronoun "she" for simplicity, but it could just as easily be "he" or "they"), because this is something I think we've all heard, or maybe even asked ourselves,...

The Power and Control Wheel

Friends. Family. Co-Workers. Bosses. Acquaintances. And even strangers... If you have ever questioned your reality, second-guessed your thought process, or constantly doubt yourself…chances are, you may have been a victim of psychological abuse 1 . As one of the many topics when referencing the “The Duluth Model: The Power and Control Wheel”, these methods are used, when abusing, and controlling, the mind, body, and spirit of another individual. Have you felt that you have been passively...

Domestic Violence in the Home: What Happens to Children?

Children are effected by domestic violence, whether noticed by parent's or not... Some say differently, arguing that the environment of the household, does not affect the result of the exposed child's wellbeing. However, studies show, that children exposed to households, harboring abusive behavior and relationships, are statistically more prone to mental health conditions, academic decline, and tendency to repeat abusive/violent behavior. Child witnesses of physical and sexual abuse can hear...

The Power and Control Wheel

Friends. Family. Co-Workers. Bosses. Acquaintances. And even strangers... If you have ever questioned your reality, second-guessed your thought process, or constantly doubt yourself…chances are, you may have been a victim of psychological abuse 1 . As one of the many topics when referencing the “The Duluth Model: The Power and Control Wheel”, these methods are used, when abusing, and controlling, the mind, body, and spirit of another individual. Have you felt that you have been passively...

My Easy Way to Teach Body Safety

We've been winding down our summer here, three birthday parties under the belt and one more holiday weekend to go. Since it's the end of the season I've been looking at swimwear for my kiddos (because who doesn't need to save money next year by buying close outs this year, right?), and it always make me think of the first time I heard someone talk about "body safety rules". Body Safety Rules are a set of concepts or guidelines that everyone should know, and that can be taught to children at...

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Good luck to you and your sweet son. Some companies have legal services. You might ask your employer if your company will help. My other...

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Saying "No"

We had a third birthday party for my son over the weekend, and the combination of "joyous occasion" and lots of random family members and friends reminded me of a very important concept. How many times have you seen someone (or possibly done this yourself) ask a child to show affection to someone they don't really know? And how many times have you seen that child being cajoled into giving that affection after they have declined either through body language (closing off the arms, turning...

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