I am a adult survivor of child sexual abuse and neglect, and my boyfriend is a survivor of sibling abuse, that being said we have some communication difficulties. He is a very sexual person as I am not. And last night I was doing dishes after working and 8hr shift, he went to kiss me on the neck. Innocent enough but I didn't want to be kissed so I asked him to stop as he approached me. He got upset, later stated in the living room that me asking him to stop makes him in turn feel like a pervert. I didn't know how to handle the conversation so I left the room and proceeded to make dinner. We didn't bring it up the rest of he night. But I still feel like a conversation needs to be had but I'm not sure how to go about it. Needing some advice.
Thank you for sharing your experience here at Yesican. Seems like you would like to start a conversation with your boyfriend about the topic. Talking about abuse experiences is not always easy for people. However do you feel like you are ready to talk? If so why don’t you start the conversation. Be honest, so that way your boyfriend knows where you stand. Here at Yesican there are also chat groups in which you can join and converse with other people who also have some experience. You are more than welcome to join or even ask us any questions.