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Sexual assault and abuse happen all too often in our society, unfortunately, with the continually butting heads of men and women alike, the core reason for these assaults and how we stop them is split. So, what can we as a people do to combat this crisis? Support our survivors.

Domestic Violence Stats You Should Know

When it comes to knowing enough about domestic violence (DV), you should familiarize yourself with relevant facts and statistics whether you are a sufferer, survivor, or know someone who has been either a sufferer or survivor of this epidemic. Keeping up to date with critical information such as this is advantageous to everyone, particularly those who are specifically interested in the topic, or who are currently in need of education regarding the subject of DV. Not only can DV effect its...

It's Not Your Fault: Victim-blaming and Child Sexual Abuse

No one wants to be a scapegoat, especially for something that is completely out of his or her control. Victim-blaming is similar to a scapegoat because a person is made to bear the blame for someone else’s actions even though he or she may be the victim. Rather than leaving the blame on the perpetrator of a crime, some people either intentionally or unintentionally shift the blame to the victim. I initially became familiar with the term and concept of “victim-blaming” after attending a...

Why Doesn't She Just Leave?

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and in honor of this I wanted to do a blog post about one of the most pervasive, and detrimental, issues we have as a society when it comes to dealing with domestic violence (DV); victim blaming. The title of this post is "why doesn't she just leave?" (please note that I am just using the pronoun "she" for simplicity, but it could just as easily be "he" or "they"), because this is something I think we've all heard, or maybe even asked ourselves,...

The Power and Control Wheel

Friends. Family. Co-Workers. Bosses. Acquaintances. And even strangers... If you have ever questioned your reality, second-guessed your thought process, or constantly doubt yourself…chances are, you may have been a victim of psychological abuse 1 . As one of the many topics when referencing the “The Duluth Model: The Power and Control Wheel”, these methods are used, when abusing, and controlling, the mind, body, and spirit of another individual. Have you felt that you have been passively...

Domestic Violence in the Home: What Happens to Children?

Children are effected by domestic violence, whether noticed by parent's or not... Some say differently, arguing that the environment of the household, does not affect the result of the exposed child's wellbeing. However, studies show, that children exposed to households, harboring abusive behavior and relationships, are statistically more prone to mental health conditions, academic decline, and tendency to repeat abusive/violent behavior. Child witnesses of physical and sexual abuse can hear...

My Easy Way to Teach Body Safety

We've been winding down our summer here, three birthday parties under the belt and one more holiday weekend to go. Since it's the end of the season I've been looking at swimwear for my kiddos (because who doesn't need to save money next year by buying close outs this year, right?), and it always make me think of the first time I heard someone talk about "body safety rules". Body Safety Rules are a set of concepts or guidelines that everyone should know, and that can be taught to children at...

Saying "No"

We had a third birthday party for my son over the weekend, and the combination of "joyous occasion" and lots of random family members and friends reminded me of a very important concept. How many times have you seen someone (or possibly done this yourself) ask a child to show affection to someone they don't really know? And how many times have you seen that child being cajoled into giving that affection after they have declined either through body language (closing off the arms, turning...

Healthy Anger

"Healthy anger" may sound like an oxymoron, but it's actually an integral part of motivation, self-awareness, and healthy communication with others. June's topic is Healthy versus Toxic Relationships, so I'm getting a jump start on the month by talking about an important part of healthy relationships; Healthy Anger. Let's start off by talking about the difference between healthy and unhealthy anger. Anger is an emotion, and our emotions are not bad or good. However, the way we express our...

Did You Know: Child Sexual Abuse and Prevention

When I watch TV shows like Dr. Phil, Iyanla Fix My Life, and My 600lb Life, I noticed that sexual abuse during childhood or adolescence is a common theme in many of the featured stories. The shows highlight sexual abuse as the source of a current problem that causes the person to engage in reckless behavior as an adult. I can’t help but wonder if the abused person would still have had the same problems if the sexual abuse had been reported when it occurred. It doesn’t matter the culture,...

Unbroken Angels and the Cycle of Abuse

Every 30 seconds a child is abused. In 1964 the United States began to pay closer attention to child abuse and neglect, thanks to President Nixon who signed the first Federal child protection legislation (CAPTA) which provides Federal assistance to states for the prevention, identification, and treatment programs for child abuse (childwelfare.gov). Since then, April has been recognized as National Child Abuse Prevention month. Despite the 53 years since the initiation of CAPTA, child abuse...

Male Survivors: Don't Be Afraid to Speak

Domestic violence has no preference, and every person has the potential to be a victim. Out of every three females that experience abuse, two males also experience abuse. Also, these statistics only revolve around cases of physical violence; they fail to mention cases of emotional and sexual abuse, which males can also be victims of. Although 40% of men experience abuse, only 13% of them seek help or use a hotline. On top of that, when men call the police on their abusers, a whopping 50% of...

What IS Emotional Abuse?

Emotional abuse is incredibly damaging to one's self-esteem and confidence with side effects that may last longer than physical abuse. While physical abuse may appear in dramatic outbursts or tension, emotional abuse is mainly undetectable and elusive to capture. Similarly, in both cases, neither the abuser nor victim may notice the signs. Emotional and physical abuse can occur in any type of relationship, ranging from parents and children to friendships or relationships. It is considered by...

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