Domestic violence has no preference, and every person has the potential to be a victim. Out of every three females that experience abuse, two males also experience abuse. Also, these statistics only revolve around cases of physical violence; they fail to mention cases of emotional and sexual abuse, which males can also be victims of. Although 40% of men experience abuse, only 13% of them seek help or use a hotline. On top of that, when men call the police on their abusers, a whopping 50% of those males reported that “police were no help at all.”
What does all this mean?
First, the ratio of abused men to women is nearly half and half, meaning that many men experience the same issues as women. It means that you, as a male survivor of abuse, are not alone or a coward. You are not any less of a person because of another person’s actions. This statistical evidence may be a result of male depiction in media as well as societal expectations for males. Regardless of the roots of the problem, people cannot deny that abuse in men- and the reactions towards that abuse- is an issue.
Second, it shows the incredibly low number of men that report abuse. This is a legitimate issue, seeing as violence can be life threatening. Even in cases of emotional abuse, most men choose to ignore rather than report. If you are a man who experiences abuse, then do not be afraid to speak about it. If you are someone who witnesses or knows about abuse, then you can save and improve lives by reaching out to others!
Third, it shows that very few males are taken seriously when they do choose to report abuse. This is another dangerous possibility, especially when police get involved. In fact, when males do choose to report their partner’s abusive tendencies, there is a 29% chance that the man will be arrested rather than the woman.
Why is this important?
A large percentage of abuse victims are not getting the help and support that they need. Regardless of sex, people deserve to break free from the chains of their abuser. Knowing the facts of abuse are important. Not only do abused individuals need to know this. Potential witnesses of abuse need to know the signs to save a life. In some cases, a man may not even realize that he is being abused. The signs of abuse differ case by case, and recognizing acts of violence towards men may be trickier.
The attitude towards abuse in men needs to change. No person deserves to experience violence, and every person deserves help. Below are some resources that you may find helpful. Though we are in no way affiliated and cannot endorse them, we know some people have found help there, and we hope they may be of help to you too.
Resources and Hotlines for Abused Males
The Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
Boys Town: 1-800-448-3000
For the Deaf, Blind, and Hard of Hearing: 855-812-1001
Safe Place: http://safeaustin.org/safeplace