Tagged With "Abuse"

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Re: How to Heal from Abuse

concrete angel ·
I tried to like it . It's a very accurate and helpful post
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Re: How to Heal from Abuse

Audrey ·
I'm afraid that my abuse came from my therapist. I think it's important for people to be aware that some therapists can hurt you, and to choose carefully.
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Re: How to Heal from Abuse

Audrey ·
I'm sorry to say that my therapist was my abuser. I think it's important to be careful and discerning as to who we entrust our feelings to.
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Re: Is this emotional abuse?

mod7 ·
Hello MARIE, Well, since you are searching about emotional abuse I definitely recommend to look at yesIcan’s blog. In the blog there is an article that just might answer your questions on emotional abuse. The article is called, What is emotional abuse? If you ever have any questions on the topic or you would like to discuss the article please, feel free to ask or discuss and we will do the best to answer or you can also join one of our chat groups that we have available here at yesican.
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Re: Research for a screenplay

concrete angel ·
Hi what would be the compensation for sharing the story , thanks
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Re: Research for a screenplay

Chloe ·
Unfortunately i wont be able to give any compensation as i'm doing it for a uni project, sorry I already have my story, i just wanted to hear others to create the right feelings and experiences for my characters. I'm aiming to raise awareness but i'm wanting to be accurately representing people. Thanks anyway :)
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Re: Research for a screenplay

concrete angel ·
Well if I can be of assistance I can help. Your welcome
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Re: This is My Story, and My Plea

mod3 ·
AFRAID ANONYMOUS, Thank you for sharing your story with us. Unfortunately, members cannot request monetary help nor allow monetary links.
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Re: This is My Story, and My Plea

Forward ·
Good luck to you and your sweet son. Some companies have legal services. You might ask your employer if your company will help. My other suggestion is that hosting international students can bring in a predictable $800.00 monthly. If I had a home, I would try that. In the meantime, the kids and I will read The Gift of Fear . Thank you for the suggestion. I'm in the same boat as you. The difference is that when I went for the restraining order against my emotionally-turned-physically abusive...
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Re: This is My Story, and My Plea

mod7 ·
Hello FORWARD, Thank you for sharing your story here with us. I’m sorry to hear about the legal system taking a while on your case. Here at yesican you can also find some emotional support in our group chats if you are interested. The important thing is that you are safe and you’re kids are safe, and this goes for everyone with a similar situation.
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Re: Getting over the abuser

mod8 ·
Hello MRYAN, Thank you for joining our websites and for sharing your story. I know that it took a lot of courage to share your experience. Are you in a safe place right now? No one should go through that in any circumstance. You are so brave and resilient be to able to discuss what you have been through. Being able to share your story is a huge step towards healing but also inspire others to do the same and share their experiences. I would recommend you to join our chatroom to talk with...
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Re: Getting over the abuser

mod7 ·
Hello ALEJANDRA, Thank you for sharing your experience here at YesIcan. It seems you have a lot of questions that can be answered by you. Sometimes those questions are difficult to answer because they may not be the answers we want to hear, or sometimes it is just overwhelming to think about it. If you would like, you can also join a chat group here in YesIcan, and you can discuss or share the ideas you might have towards finding some answers. Whatever you choose to do, choose for you and...
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Re: Getting over the abuser

MRyan ·
I have been in a 12 year marriage with my son's father who started off being so nice and sweet. I got with him at 17 married 3 months later. I find it hard 8 years later hard to let things go even though I know I could never be with him again because it would be so different. I can't tell you why because I find myself in the same boat. But I like you would like to talk to others that's been in the same boat. I use to think because he didn't punch or hit me that it wasn't abuse but I was...
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Re: We're going to trial

mod7 ·
Hello SammiJ, Thank you for sharing your experience here. It is okay for you to feel scared. Your experience must have been difficult. However, you are very brave for making the report. A very important thing to remember is that you and your children are safe. Here at YesIcan, there are chat groups if you would like to join to discuss more about your experience.
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Re: We're going to trial

mod8 ·
Hi SAMMIJ, Thank you for joining our website and for sharing your story. I know that it wasn't easy to open up to us and that it took a lot of courage. I apologize for what you have gone and are going through. No one should go through that in any situation. I would recommend you to join our chatroom to talk with others that are going through or have gone through what you are going through. Here is the website for the National Domestic Violence Hotline http://www.thehotline. org/ and the...
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Proper research for a book im writing and I want info to be accurate

Iwanttohelp ·
Hello, Im planning on writing a book that involves child abuse and as i dont want to insult anyone or write anything wrong, I was wondering if anyone could help put me in the right direction or know of anyone that wants to have a chat about how it and how I should get it across on paper. Thankyou <3
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Research for a screenplay

Chloe ·
Hi everyone, I'm currently writing a screenplay about life after domestic abuse and i was basically just wondering if anyone was willing to share their story with me for research? No worries if no one is comfortable, i just thought it was worth an ask Thank you in advance, Chloe :)
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Research for a screenplay

Chloe ·
Hi everyone, I'm currently writing a screenplay about life after domestic abuse and i was basically just wondering if anyone was willing to share their story with me for research? No worries if no one is comfortable, i just thought it was worth an ask Thank you in advance, Chloe :)
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This is My Story, and My Plea

Afraid Anonymous ·
I hope this isn't against the rules. I am sharing my story here in hopes that other victims will help me get the word out. This is My Story, and My Plea Nutshell version: I've been raising my son in an abusive relationship since he was born. I've tried to divorce this man three times. I thought I was doing the right thing at first by trying to make a bad relationship work. Then I thought I was doing the right thing by staying so that I could protect my son from the terrible things his father...
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Too tired for sex, husband got very angry

Jaime ·
Ever since I was first pregnant with our daughter (she is almost three now) my husband has flown into rages that seem like they come out of nowhere to me. At first they were just yelling, screaming, and pounding on walls and doors with his fists. They progressed to me getting grabbed and pulled. He has never hit me or left any significant bruises. He has been psychiatrically hospitalized twice in the past two years for severe depression, and he has gotten much much better at managing his -...
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We're going to trial

SammiJ ·
I have known my abuser for around ten years now. He's always been physically violent, starting three months into the relationship. I was 17 and he was 21. I left multiple times and always ended up coming back. When our first daughter was nine months old I left him for what I thought was the final time. He ended up in jail for aggravated kidnapping or the girl he'd been cheating on me with. He was sentenced to five years and served four. When he got out on parole, I gave him another chance.
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Domestic Violence in the Home: What Happens to Children?

JR ·
Children are effected by domestic violence, whether noticed by parent's or not... Some say differently, arguing that the environment of the household, does not affect the result of the exposed child's wellbeing. However, studies show, that children exposed to households, harboring abusive behavior and relationships, are statistically more prone to mental health conditions, academic decline, and tendency to repeat abusive/violent behavior. Child witnesses of physical and sexual abuse can hear...
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A Child Abuse Survivor- What I Want Others To Know

Kay ·
As I sit here thinking about what to write, i’m struck by the idea that some people might not know what goes on inside the mind of a child abuse adult survivor after years of healing. What would I want people to know about my experience? What do I wish people knew? How has it affected me and changed me into the person I am today? These are all what I deem as important questions to look at and ponder. So, the first thing I want to say about childhood abuse (this includes physical, emotional...
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What YesICAN Has To Offer Abuse Survivors

Stephanie K ·
Yes ICAN: International Child Advocacy Network is an amazing organization which helps many survivors of abuse through education The mission of the organization is: working world-wide to break the silence and cycle of abuse. Yes ICAN believes that the only way we can prevent child abuse and domestic violence is to break the cycle of abused children growing up to become abusers or individuals who are unable to protect their children or themselves because they don't know how. The organization...
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Break through the darkness and shine

concrete angel ·
Being angry and placing blame takes too much energy. It took me a long time to let it go. Everyone heals and handles things different, but the key is to know that it's not your fault. I was angry for awhile. Accepting the hurt and abuse caused by my loved ones wasn't easy, nor was the journey I was given. I used to feel that if I forgave people and chose happiness, it meant their behavior was justified. It's actually quite the opposite. And although I can forgive most, but not my father ...
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Did You Know: Child Sexual Abuse and Prevention

le.petit. avocat ·
When I watch TV shows like Dr. Phil, Iyanla Fix My Life, and My 600lb Life, I noticed that sexual abuse during childhood or adolescence is a common theme in many of the featured stories. The shows highlight sexual abuse as the source of a current problem that causes the person to engage in reckless behavior as an adult. I can’t help but wonder if the abused person would still have had the same problems if the sexual abuse had been reported when it occurred. It doesn’t matter the culture,...
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How to Heal from Abuse

Stephanie K ·
Being abused in any way can have a negative impact on an individual’s life. The severity of the psychological repercussions can vary depending on many factors....
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What is and How to Identify Child Sexual Abuse

Stephanie K ·
Are noticing your child is acting “out of character”? Did you know this could be because they might have been sexually abused? Some background information you might find helpful: The abuser may be an adult or an older child or adolescent The abuse may include forcing a child to engage in sexual activities; asking or pressuring the child to do so (regardless of the outcome); indecent exposure of the genitals to a child; displaying pornography to a child; rubbing the genitals...
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Social ·
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Male Survivors: Don't Be Afraid to Speak

Destiny Vaughan ·
Domestic violence has no preference, and every person has the potential to be a victim. Out of every three females that experience abuse, two males also experience abuse. Also, these statistics only revolve around cases of physical violence; they fail to mention cases of emotional and sexual abuse, which males can also be victims of. Although 40% of men experience abuse, only 13% of them seek help or use a hotline. On top of that, when men call the police on their abusers, a whopping 50% of...
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8 Ways a Parent Should Prevent Child Sexual Abuse

Kay ·
In honor of April being Child Abuse Prevention Month, this month I want to talk about prevention of child sexual abuse. There are things that we as adults can do to protect children and also teaching them safety strategies to protect themselves. The following is an easy list that parents, school teachers, coaches, and child care personnel can use as a quick guide on how to prevent Child Sexual Abuse. Take an active role in your child’s life . Be involved in their activities and people around...
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Warning Signs of Abuse...This is Child Abuse Prevention Month

Stephanie K ·
April is National Child Abuse Prevention Month. Child mistreatment is any act or series of acts of commission or omission by a parent or other caregiver that results in harm, potential for harm, or threat of harm to a child. There are different kinds of child abuse: physical, sexual, and emotional. Neglect, which can be benign or deliberate, is also child abuse. If you think there might be a child that might be a victim of abuse, check your suspicions against the list below which are common...
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Strike Against Child Abuse to Spare the Kids

Social ·
On Sunday, YesICAN celebrated their annual “Strike Against Child Abuse to Spare the Kids” bowling fundraiser at Winnetka Bowl. This was a fun filled event for friends, families and supporters of YesICAN’s mission to break the silence...
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Victims: 3 Helpful Ways to Share Your Survival Story

Stephanie K ·
If you are a survivor of an abusive relationship there are resources for you which can help you share your story and gain strength. 2 sites mentioned here are our own, of course, YesICAN.org , as well as Good Therapy.
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The Power and Control Wheel

JR ·
Friends. Family. Co-Workers. Bosses. Acquaintances. And even strangers... If you have ever questioned your reality, second-guessed your thought process, or constantly doubt yourself…chances are, you may have been a victim of psychological abuse 1 . As one of the many topics when referencing the “The Duluth Model: The Power and Control Wheel”, these methods are used, when abusing, and controlling, the mind, body, and spirit of another individual. Have you felt that you have been passively...
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Unbroken Angels and the Cycle of Abuse

Social ·
Every 30 seconds a child is abused. In 1964 the United States began to pay closer attention to child abuse and neglect, thanks to President Nixon who signed the first Federal child protection legislation (CAPTA) which provides Federal assistance to states for the prevention, identification, and treatment programs for child abuse (childwelfare.gov). Since then, April has been recognized as National Child Abuse Prevention month. Despite the 53 years since the initiation of CAPTA, child abuse...
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What IS Emotional Abuse?

AmberH ·
Emotional abuse is incredibly damaging to one's self-esteem and confidence with side effects that may last longer than physical abuse. While physical abuse may appear in dramatic outbursts or tension, emotional abuse is mainly undetectable and elusive to capture. Similarly, in both cases, neither the abuser nor victim may notice the signs. Emotional and physical abuse can occur in any type of relationship, ranging from parents and children to friendships or relationships. It is considered by...
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Acknowledgment

Scarlet_Violet ·
I found Yes I Can and was surprised to see acknowledgement of Sibling Abuse, which is so common and so invisible in the discussion of child abuse. I have had to focus on the valid point of parental neglect to join discussions and receive support. But if we talked more openly in our culture about sibling abuse and stopped calling it, or clearly distinguished it, from "sibling rivalry", I would feel much more validated and hopeful. Shockingly the media talks a lot about school bullying without...
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Getting over the abuser

Alejandra ·
Hi everyone, I'm going to start off by apologizing for the long post but I realized I might get the help I need just by talking to other woman that have been in my shoes and have gone through bad relationships that turned abusive. I'm 27 years old and I'm still figuring my life out, I'm a full time worker and a part time student. I left my ex 5 years ago but he some how is still popping back in my life through these 5 years. it all started when I was 17 years old i started dating my first...
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Is this emotional abuse?

Marie ·
Hello, My partner has been withdrawn for several years now and has refused to talk to me about what is going on and has refused to go to counseling, until very recently, though it appears after about 2 months he's not going to counseling any more. He stopped being loving toward me but he still manages energy to engage with and love our 2 children. His actions include: -no longer sleeping in the same bed -not showing any interest in planning time together (ie after our second child was born...
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Re: Acknowledgment

mod8 ·
Hi SCARLET_VIOLET, Thank you for joining our website and sharing your thoughts. I would recommend you to join our chat rooms for support here at yesican.org. YesICAN believes that sibling abuse can be as damaging as any other abuse.
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Re: Proper research for a book im writing and I want info to be accurate

Essienbeeb ·
Hi IWANTTOHELP , This is really appreciable. You are doing a great job. I think a proper awareness about physical and emotional abuse, after effects and tips to deal with such abuses would help people to handle such situations. It is hard to convince children about such abuses. Abuses will affect children in different ways. It has long term effects and that might spoil both the physical and mental health of the child. Recently I read an article on how emotional abuse affect the hearing...
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Re: 8 Ways a Parent Should Prevent Child Sexual Abuse

GettingThrough ·
Sure wish my parents would have paid attention and listened to me all those years ago! If they had I wouldn't be the mess of a person I am now.
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Re: 8 Ways a Parent Should Prevent Child Sexual Abuse

YICVP ·
I am so sorry that they didn't and sure hope that won't stop you from doing the work necessary to become the person you'd rather be. Many of us are here to guide you. Please check out our facilitated chat rooms for appropriate topics and times for you. Wishing you an easy healing!
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Re: 8 Ways a Parent Should Prevent Child Sexual Abuse

GettingThrough ·
I am working on becoming that person and slowly making progress. Nothing about it has been easy though, but it has gotten easier.
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Re: 8 Ways a Parent Should Prevent Child Sexual Abuse

YICVP ·
Such is the nature of the work...so worth it though! Keep on keeping on and come back here as often as you need for guidance and encouragement!
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It's Not Your Fault: Victim-blaming and Child Sexual Abuse

le.petit. avocat ·
No one wants to be a scapegoat, especially for something that is completely out of his or her control. Victim-blaming is similar to a scapegoat because a person is made to bear the blame for someone else’s actions even though he or she may be the victim. Rather than leaving the blame on the perpetrator of a crime, some people either intentionally or unintentionally shift the blame to the victim. I initially became familiar with the term and concept of “victim-blaming” after attending a...
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I thought I had worked through this.

Barbie ·
I am not sure where to begin. When I was five my father began molesting me. I did not know that he was doing was bad until I was 8 or 9 when my Mom told me that he had been arrested by military police for doing the same to my older sister. I really very clearly remember thinking, "So what Dad did to me was wrong?!" I ended up telling my mom that evening. I was lucky. She believed me. I vaguely remember having to use those anatomically correct dolls to point out what he did. God my childhood...
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