Help for a male DV victim

A friend of mine just told me that his wife has been abusing him.  He tells everyone his scars are from Iraq, but they're really from her stabbing him on multiple occasions.  He came to work with bruises and said he got in a bar fight, but it was really from her.  She cheats on him and brags about it. He won't leave her though because he doesn't want to be an every-other-weekend dad.  He called the police recently and they told him they would have arrested HIM if she hadn't left before they got there.  What can I tell him? It seems like all the resources out there are for women only, including the police.  He's right about child custody too, she would definitely be the primary parent because she doesn't work.

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Hello CAMAS,

Thank you for joining our website. I apologize for what your friend is going through. Can't imagine how hard it is to hear those things. You're an amazing friend for having that concern for him and wanting to help him out. Not many people are able to do that. I would recommend you to suggest him to go to our domestic violence page and read the information. Also I provide you with a website for the National Domestic Violence Hotline http://www.thehotline.org/ and the number is 1-800-799-SAFE(7233) that you could give him. Here is a website that is going to help him http://www.malesurvivor.org/index.php. I would also suggest to look into this website www.1in6.org. I would encourage him to join our chat room here at yesican.org for support.

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