Interview

Hello everyone,

I am a high school student and I am doing a research project on Abusive relationships. It would be amazing if I could interview people who have been effected by this abuse. I understand how hard it is to talk about the past, I was in an emotionally abusive relationship and I had to spend almost a year after in therapy to try and recover. Personal information will be kept private to your request. If anyone is interested in answering a few questions, please message me.

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Hi, I myself had been in an abusive relationship for over 13 years.  And it was not only myself bejng abused, my three daughters were as well.  I left in December of 2018.  It was a little over a year after losing my oldest daughter to suicide and realizing he still hadn't changed that I left.  I never left before, never called the cops, never reported the abuse in any way.  Losing my daughter was the hardest thing I ever had to face.  I had enough.   There was nothing I was afraid of anymore.  I had let him know that wanted to leave and he promised he would change.  He did for a short period of time, but his verbal and emotional abuse came back little by little.   And it wasn't towards me, because he knew that after we lost our daughter I had changed.  I wouldn't allow him to hurt me anymore.   Whether it was his verbal or emotional abuse, it didn't affect me.  It bothered him that he couldn't get to me anymore.   I noticed he took it out on my other 2 daughters.   He would not do it in front of me, because I would stop him. He would do it when the children were alone with him.  Long story short, there was nothing stopping me now.  I knew I hsd to leave for the sake of my daughters and protecting them. 

Hi 

I’m not sure what area u live in. I participated in a support group after I left my ex 2 yrs ago, I was referred by the social services. It made such a difference to me to be able to talk to other women that had gone through similar experiences. At that point I was at a massive low, I had lost all self worth, confidence and I felt terribly ashamed. A year later I was running the group with supervision and I started volunteering supporting other women that have experienced dv. I have now moved on to work in a nursery and I have changed so much. I still have bad days and feel as if I’m still trying to find myself. I know how hard and scary it is to talk to anyone especially doctors but they may be able to refer you for counselling. If your not ready now maybe in the future x 

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